Really, I'm not desperate for friends. When you meet someone that seems to have a lot in common with you, be wary of them.
I think those people that are habitually bad friends, need to wear a name tag that says: Hello, My name is LOSER, I'm a BAD FRIEND!
I'm actually still flaberghasted by a "friend" of mine who I just met in September/October 2009, who has already cast me aside.
I feel so used and dirty!
Honestly, How does someone make plans with someone else, (like for the next day) and "forget"?
ME: "Hey, since I'm coming over to do x, I wanted to make sure you had y, otherwise, I'll have to bring z."
FAKER: "Omg, so sorry, totally forgot about u. at my mom's house for dinner, take a raincheck?"
ME: "oh, ok. sure..."
REALLY???
But, fortunately for me, I have more than enough GOOD FRIENDS, to make up for all these lame-o's who waste my time.
Now, I know why I'm reserved when we go out. This is why I tend to sit in the corner and watch everyone around me. Because I dont trust people I dont know. Even if you're really trying to be my friend, you're gonna really have your work cut out for you.
Not interested in Fake Friends, Thank you anyway!
What would you do if this happened to you? How would you handle a Faker?
I try to remember that people are busy, that there is more to life than friends and if I get set aside once or twice EVERY NOW AND THEN I don't make a big deal of it. But when someone does it repeatedly, I just stop making the effort. I mean, why should I if they don't?
ReplyDeleteWe are too good to be treated that way.
Now when do you want to hang out again?
Yes, unfortunately, the person I'm frustrated with has done this to me every time I try to get together with her. She either doesnt show, or shows then disappears, or just "forgets" me. And it always feels like she's trying to put me and hubby in the middle of her relationship drama with her live in beau... This is the behavior that has me questioning the sincerity of her friendship. That and the fact that I've written her two emails, and she hasn't responded NOR has she mentioned any of this to her beau - who my hubby talks to almost every day b/c he's helping him with some things...
ReplyDeleteSo I'm at the point where I just am not going to put any effort into her anymore... It's sad, but thats how I feel now. I'm honestly disappointed in her about all this...
And I'm sure I'll see you again on the 9th, after that, we'll have to discuss plans for another knit fest. :)